Just Get Rid Of It

In one year’s time I remarried, retired, and relocated across the country to my widower husband’s home.

“What will you do now?” they all would ask.

“I’m going to write a book about the eighteen weeks we spent paring my possessions to the bone, then clearing enough stuff from my husband’s home so my stuff could fit in it,” I would answer.

One time, one of our friends replied, “But. If you need to get rid of stuff, you just get rid of it! What is there to write about?”

I thought for a moment. We’d already learned about his retirement and about their two daughters preparing to marry and to leave home.

“Don’t you and your wife want to cut back?” I asked.


“Well then. What stops you?”

After a pause, slowly,

“She says if I get rid of five pounds of my stuff, then she’ll get rid of five pounds of hers….” and his voice trailed off.

I know very well what might be in those unspoken volumes. His eyes caught mine as he began to have an idea what might be in such a book.

Nevertheless, our friend is right.  When we need to get rid of stuff we just get rid of it.

But there’s a catch. It’s that word “need.” And that other word, “just.”

For consideration:
If you are successfully decluttering your home, what motivated you to get started?

If you haven’t started yet but you would like to, think of a few reasons that hold you back. Whatever they may be, you aren’t alone.

Author: American Declutterer

I've had three careers, moved among thirteen states, and cleared four houses after loved ones moved on. Sometimes you just have to look at all the stuff and laugh. Then get back to discarding.

2 thoughts on “Just Get Rid Of It”

  1. That’s a good motto you have there, “Get rid of it”. That’s exactly the way to do it. Get rid of it! I have a policy now, I don’t take in any new books unless I get rid of an old one . (Of course, I keep all the gift books and sentimental ones; I’m talking about the ‘other’ books that one tends to collect to ‘read someday’.


    1. Actually, the point is that sometimes it isn’t easy to “Just get rid of it.” When the stuff is yours and nobody else has a claim on it, then, sure. I can sort through my own clothes and books. But often clutter is shared… For instance a corner of my lower level is currently full of my husband’s deceased first wife’s deceased mother’s stuff. He thinks it needs to go to her brother. The brother refuses to commit to coming to get it; we don’t have a vehicle that will transport it to him, and I refuse to pay to store someone else’s stuff. Impasse. Although I would love to just get rid of it, I can’t do a thing until somebody’s viewpoint shifts.


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